Putting On Your “Selfish Hat” Has a Net Positive Effect on the Relationships in Your Life

Here’s the thing babe–

You gotta take care of #1 in order for you to have the ongoing energy & presence to show up for others

You are #1. YES YOU.

This is a DECISION & a CHOICE that you get to make right now

And you get to keep choosing yourself as a top priority every single day (until it feels like second nature for you)

Here are some great affirmations for you to practice ideally waking up to support you:

💃 I value & honor myself, my time & my energy

💃 I am important

💃 I am my top priority

💃 My needs & wants are my top priority

💃 My needs & wants are just as important as anyone else's

💃 My preferences are valid

💃 I am just as important as anyone else

💃 I love myself. I love myself. I love myself.

YOU ARE NEEDED AS MUCH AS YOU MAKE YOURSELF AVAILABLE FOR

You have kids? A demanding boss? Loved ones in crisis and they realllllly need you to show up for them right away all the time?

HEAR ME WHEN I SAY THIS: YOU MODEL TO OTHERS HOW YOU WANT TO BE TREATED

If you don’t make yourself a priority no one else will

If you don’t give yourself time to rest & recharge, your time will be filled with constant hustle leaving you feeling depleted & resentful

If you don’t honor your preferences or make time for the things that light you up–you’ll feel more depleted, resentful, & feel less like yourself

This looks like living for Others–chasing Their approval, endlessly earning your worthiness & trying to prove to Others that you are valuable to Them

Queue the limiting belief: I am only good & valuable when I have something to offer

It’s absolutely NOT true. It’s time to remove this limiting belief because it has been driving the bus with how you make your decisions

You see, your time has been arranged around others’ needs. Your choices have been based on others needs, preferences, & crises that they rely on you to fix & support them through

THE RESULT IS YOU ARE LIVING A LIFE THAT IS NOT YOUR OWN. YOUR TIME IS NOT YOUR OWN.

Here's the good news babe:

Change is easier than you think, especially once you recognize that this way of living is no longer working for you

The first step you can do right now is DECIDE that learning how to make yourself a priority is now a top priority for you

Making changes doesn’t have to take a long time when you have the right kind of support

I work with my clients where we break the big things down into small bite size chunks so that making changes feels doable and Not overwhelming PLUS you feel super supported every step of the way

When you grow, your people will test your new boundaries. They’ll give you push back because they’ve always experienced you in a specific way–the endless giver.

Imagine having me as your coach to root for you, cheering you on, holding space for who you’re becoming, & giving you all the tools you need to work through any situation that comes up

This is what it takes to change

You can start here by coming on a Play Date Consultation Call to talk about what’s going on in your life, how I can support you, and we’ll explore if we’re a good fit to work together

You get to become the person that prioritizes yourself, that models for others what self love, healthy boundaries, listening to your body, following your preferences & delights looks like

IT’S YOUR TIME.

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