I Cleaned House Over The Last 6 Years…
I CLEANED HOUSE OVER THE LAST 6 YEARS…
…I shed layers of friendships/relationships that were no longer aligned with who I am
After decades of people pleasing to the point that I got sick, I finally chose myself, my needs, honoring my energy & got super picky about who I allowed in
🚫 I Don’t Accept Invitations That I Don’t Feel REALLY Pulled To…
This practice has unknowingly either brought my people closer to me because they chose to honor me, my energy, my preferences without holding it against me AND I them
Or this practice created distance or shedding of unaligned friendships…
…those that were inflexible (sometimes offended) because they wanted me to show up for them in a way that I was no longer available for…well, we grew apart
…It didn’t mean anyone is bad but it does mean I was NOT going to compromise myself, my time & energy when I didn’t want to & that sometimes meant distance or letting go of relationships that no longer served me
🚫 I Don’t Spend Time With People Because I Feel That I “Should”…
…I spend time with my peeps because I want to, in the way that I want to, when I want to, & in the amount of time that I want to
This boundary setting practice has been the best & one of the most powerfully healing practices that I’ve done for myself …
…And what’s beautiful is that when cleaning house, what remained are solid friendships & relationships that have only gotten stronger, more real, more authentic, & filled with even more love, compassion, & understanding of one another
I ONLY have space to invite in more of these kinds of relationships and the universe delivers to this standard that continues to reflect congruence within myself
My key lesson has been to check in to what I was making myself available for
💃🏻 How did it feel? Was I feeling really good or off, and why? What part felt off? How could it be better? What did I need to let go of? What felt more congruent with ME?
The more I got curious, the clearer I got & the simpler things became of what stayed and what needed to go
I invite you to do your own inventory of who you spend your time with and how & what you spend your time on. Then ask yourself:
💃🏻 What feels good for you? What no longer feels good?
💃🏻 Where are you operating from “shoulds” or fear of judgment or shame?
💃🏻 What are you no longer available for?
💃🏻 Ask yourself what do YOU prefer? What do you want? What do you want to be available for?
Follow your breadcrumb trail to align further with who you are & surround yourself with people who reflect, honor, & love you for YOU and NOT who they need you to be for them.
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